We all know the fairy tales and we all have a pretty picture as to how we want our life to be. There’s movies, books, magazines, advertisements, everything that tries to tell us what love is all about. I always thought that somebody didn’t really care about you unless you were getting flowers daily, poems, romantic dinners and candles on a weekly basis. I’ve been in a really crummy relationship that was the polar opposite of that and made me want simpler things like someone staying in with me to watch a movie or going to bed at the same time as me so I don’t have to feel alone. I guess it’s true that you can’t truly appreciate something really great until you have experienced something not so great. Now I’m much more realistic about love, as I’m sure a lot of parents are now. You truly appreciate the little things. So I’ll list a few that my wonderful husband probably doesn’t even realize he’s doing on a daily basis 🙂

1. Changing Poopy Diapers- There is truly nothing sexier to me than a husband who changes a poopy diaper or any diaper for that matter. He never makes a big deal about it and the best part is I can hear him chatting away to our daughter as he’s doing it. He doesn’t know that it’s a very special moment for the two of them and it allows me to get something else done. Like every good thing in life, there are some things that aren’t so great that go along with it. Changing diapers is no ones favourite thing but it has to be done. He gets that and realizes after I’ve done it all day, it helps that he does a few for me.

2. Taking Us Into Town- We live on a dairy farm two minutes from town so not far but far enough to get that country feel. During the day I don’t always get out with my daughter simply because the motivation isn’t there or I don’t really have a purpose to. If my husband needs to go to town to get something, sometimes we’ll all go. We usually stop for a coffee which is a wonderful thing in itself. He doesn’t mind taking us for a drive and getting us out of the house. He clearly enjoys spending time with his family and doesn’t make a big deal about me taking forever to get ready, or having to pack up a diaper bag and lugging a carseat around. It’s those little moments that are actually a really big deal to me.

3. I can use him as a body pillow- I am always cold unless there is heavy humidity in the air. Even then I will wear a sweater. My favourite part of the day is snuggling up to my man pillow to warm up. Even when  I was 9 months pregnant, he didn’t mind feeling baby kicks on his back as I spooned him. I hope that didn’t affect how manly he felt? Whoops, sorry honey 🙂 He gets the tiniest sliver of the bed and no covers some nights. I move constantly when I sleep, I drool on him, and snore like Darth Vadar. But he always lets me cause he knows it brings me comfort and I like having that him and me time.

4. He eats whatever I cook- I try to eat as healthy as I can and my husband is  a typical meat and potatoes kind of guy. I try out new recipes and make things that aren’t always his favourite. There are some nights I cook lazy things like grilled cheese and tomato soup cause I don’t feel like doing anything else. But he always eats it. He doesn’t look at me like I’m crazy, or turn up his nose like my six year old does quite frequently. He simply appreciates that he doesn’t have to cook for himself which makes it easier for me when preparing meals. It’s bad enough having a son who is the first to say when he doesn’t like something (even when he’s had it before). But my hubby sets the example and eats every last bite. Thanks for eating my weird, healthy, lame, 5 minute suppers honey.xo

5. He makes my dreams come true-I love animals. I love their gentle nature and love that they show for you when they are treated properly. I love the cows on our farm, our two dogs, and I fell in love with goats when he took me to a goat farm. Ever since then I have dreamed of having goats of my own, that I can call my pets, and extend my love for animals. Well I am now the proud owner of goats and he made that happen for me. For Christmas I got a homemade goat shed that he made with some friends, and my birthday present were goats of my own. He didn’t make a big deal, he just said okay we’ll do it. How amazing is that? How many women can say my husband got me goats? That’s what I thought.

In conclusion, it’s the little things. Our husbands or partners do things everyday to help us or make us feel loved. We just have to choose to see that. Real love isn’t always roses and candles and poems. Realistic and lasting love is being a team, being a best friend, confidant, shoulder to cry on. I never knew what it meant to marry your best friend until I found mine. I honestly look at him everyday when he doesn’t realize and smile because I have this wonderful person in my life. I highly recommend marrying your best friend, and appreciating all the little things they have to offer. All that adds up and believe me it’s everlasting.