Excuse my lack of communication on my website for so long. Sometimes my words don’t always come out the way I want them to or I would write a post but it just didn’t sound right so I hit that good ol delete button.
I’ve actually been experiencing a lot of baby on the brain. Our little girl is almost one and of course as they reach that milestone you don’t get asked the normal questions anymore. Such as, is she walking yet? What kinds of foods does she like? What’s her favourite book? Nope, none of that. Instead people look you right in the eye and say are you pregnant yet? Currently my social media is BLOWING UP with pregnancy announcements, mostly couples we know having their second, third, or even fourth child. I’m not going to lie here. As I scroll through my newsfeed I hold my breath knowing that I am happy for these people but I long to have my pregnancy announcement up there too!
It’s no secret to out friends and family that we have been trying for a few months now. My recovery was really amazing after my daughter and I felt great so why not? Getting pregnant with Molly was like a one and done deal. It happened soooo quickly that I almost died of shock when I saw those two pink lines. Now this time around, things are taking a little longer and while I thought I was getting impatient, everyone around us seems to be even more. Like they’re sick of asking if we are yet, or how’s it going, or saying the famous it’ll happen when it’s meant to happen. Here’s an idea, and I’m including myself for these words of wisdom too, DON’T ASK!!!!!! Right now our friends and us are at the stage in our lives where the weddings are all over and now people are expanding their families. I sense there is a lot of competitiveness going around about who will be the first to announce they are expecting again. I’m just as guilty as the next person for asking the annoying question which is maybe why it’s taking us a little bit longer this time around. I can now semi relate to all those women who are asked repeatedly when they are going to have a baby.
What I am now trying to remind myself is that there could be many scenarios as to why someone isn’t pregnant:
- They don’t want to have children (oh my god scandalous! But kudos to you for owning that decision and not letting society make it for you)
- They can’t have children- sadly enough this is becoming a more and more common situation. Many women are choosing to take their infertility public in hopes to inspire others going through the same thing. But let’s not forget about those who wish to keep it a private matter an deal with it quietly. They deserve that respect
- They don’t want anymore- I’ve always thought it was very cool that you would know one girl who was an only child, but then the girl down the street was the oldest of six. For whatever reason ( and it’s really none of our business) families are played out in a way that works for that family. If you want a house full of kids that’s awesome, but for the families who are content with one child ( or none) that’s just as great and special for them. In conclusion I think together we need to work on sticking our foot in our mouth a little more when it comes to such a private and sensitive subject of having children. You don’t realize how complicated people can make it or how much pressure until it’s staring you right in the face. So how about this? The next time you’re in a conversation with someone and you feel that question about to come out of you like verbal diarrhea, take a deep breath and say how’s the family?😊
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