With September already here, it means that it’s back to school time. Along with that can come an array of emotions. As a mama whose little lady is heading off to kindergarten, that means a whole new chapter not only for her but for me as a stay at home mama too. As I’ve thought about her first day I’ve also realized a trend in the conversations I have about back to school: It seems to be more traumatic for the parents than it is for our little humans. I fall into that category too if we’re being transparent and sometimes I wished the summer would never end. But then I realized that I wanted to flip the script for her sake and for mine. I don’t want to make her first day all about how sad I am. I want to fuel her excitement and let her know that she will have the best time (because it’s kindergarten and they seriously all have a blast). I’ve made a list to keep me accountable (because I love a good list) of all the things I want to remember leading up to that day to make it a positive experience for her even if I’m feeling ridiculously nostalgic.

Kids need their freedom: Just like when parents take a vacation or desperately need a date night, kids also need their space sometimes from mom and dad. That isn’t always necessarily easy when they rely on us for the majority of things and well live under the same roof of us too. As parents we influence a lot of their behaviours and decisions. Sure they all have their own personalities and quirks, but generally we steer them in the direction of right and wrong on a day to day basis. When they start going to school everyday, little by little they will have to start making decisions by themselves. Some days they will be good ones and other days not so good. All of this will be based on their own thoughts and feelings at that given time. It’s all about trial and error and as adults we go through that too (except it’s not as cute when we screw up). This is where they learn the lesson about the choices they make and the consequences that come along with that using their own judgement. It’s so good for them to learn and as parents it’s awesome to see your child come into their own even more.

They will make friends: Since it seems tedious to make new friends more as an adult (come on you feel that too), we forget that for kids it’s just a matter of saying hi. Simple, direct and to the point. Within a matter of minutes they have ten best friends, have gotten into five different fights, made up from those fights, and played twenty different games. It seems exhausting to us, but to them it’s just another day. Kids aren’t judgemental, they don’t care if you’re a boy or a girl, and they really don’t care what game they’re playing. They are basic creatures who like to play and have some company doing it. They put adults to shame in terms of acceptance, face to face interaction, and FUN! Of course there will be hard days, that comes with relationships, but each day to them is brand new. They wipe the slate clean and they don’t focus on what happened yesterday. They’re just ready to learn and play with their new friends.

Going to school EVERYDAY is okay: This topic is one of debate amongst parents of kindergarteners. Some say it’s too much and they’re too young and others think that it’s good for them especially when first grade rolls around. Personally I agree with the latter point of view but like I’ve said before #youdoyou My theory is the great thing about kids is that they have endless amounts of energy. I wish I could bottle that up. Are they going to be tired? Yep. Will they fall asleep on the bus or eating dinner? Most likely. But it’s mainly because they are soaking up all sorts of change. Kids go go go until their battery is completely drained. That’s all they know how to do and they definitely don’t want to miss anything. Of course there will be an adjustment period that comes with any sort of change, but I don’t think it’s fair to project our possibly fearful emotions onto them. If they seem extra tired, that’s normal. If you choose to keep them home one day a week, then do what works best for you and your family. All I’m saying is to give them a chance because they have a way of surprising us. Kids take it day by day and so should we.

Kindergarten is just the beginning: In this season of life, especially if this is your first child going off to school, kindergarten seems HUGE. It looks big and scary and life altering. Many times that’s how we approach change. As a big scary monster lurking in the shadows. But how do our kids see it? As an adventure and a mountain that they are for sure going to climb. I always try to put things into perspective and think about the big picture. Sending your child to kindergarten compared to seeing them go off to college or university. See what I mean? I will cross that emotionally charged bridge when I get to it. Just look forward instead of backwards. Sure they aren’t little babies anymore, but think about when they see you after school how excited they are going to be. They will have hundreds of different stories to tell you (some you will hear over and over again) and they will have artwork and accomplishments that they can’t wait to share with you. With the hard comes the amazing especially when it comes to our kiddies.

So yes you are most certainly allowed to be nostalgic. You’ve earned that right. And yes I do have a heart but I am merely speaking from previous experience. My oldest son is cruising into grade five and I can still remember his very first day of school. It was hard but I can say firsthand how transformative and awesome kindergarten was for him. If you think of it, it’s the best of both worlds. They get to learn, play, and develop important skills all at the same time #winning. So to all you parents out there, make this first day about the littles. Be excited and encouraging even if it hurts you a little inside. They feed off of you and if they see how ecstatic you are they’ll know it’s all good. Good luck to all you mom’s and dad’s out there and good luck to all your kiddies too! Remember to enjoy the ride along with them:)

“You’re off to great places. Today is your day! You’re mountain is waiting so get on your way!- Dr. Seuss.

Mama Hil.xo